Always interested with connection between you and me.
Stumbled on this talk at TED. The speaker made a few statements, defined a few definitions, and touched my heart with her own story.
She said (and I paraphrase here and there) this:
Courage is telling your story with your whole heart. Compassion is practice has to be practiced onto your own self, before you can extend it. Connections occurs as a result of authenticity.
In order to be connected, I have to show myself and be seen. Be really seen. I have to learn to be vulnerable, showing my shamefulness and everything else that comes with my being and life.
People who are able to connect with others, have made a decision in their life that they choose to believe that they are worthy. And that they will take the risk, to risk rejection, separation, knowing that there is no guarantees in this life and in this world.
The speaker also mentioned that, “Blame is a way to discharge pain and discomfort.”
And this is really true in my own personal life. And what I have learned is simply, when I can be vulnerable to someone, connection is being made, more so when vulnerability is reciprocated.
The big question is, how do we obtain this courage and extend it to others? Can we obtain it? Will we extend it then?
